Some people have been asking me, “So, what ever ended up happening to him?”
Well, once I returned to the
, we kept in touch through Facebook and an occasional text message. For a few weeks, I continued pushing and encouraging and practically begging him to go get tested. He continued to say that he was “too afraid”, and he continued to ask how I was doing and claim that he missed me. Finally, one day I received a Facebook message saying, “I write to tell you that I did the test, and am doing further tests to determine the best possible medication, am sad to say you were right.” United States
After that, he got pretty quiet, and just a few days later announced that he was now “in a relationship” with another girl. I questioned whether he had told her about his HIV status, and he got very defensive and avoided the question, which leads me to believe that the answer is “No”. This upset me very much- not that he was with someone else- but that he was with someone else and possibly not telling her about the HIV! I stressed about it for a day or two, but finally decided that there was nothing I could do. It was not my place to go and tell her. And after doing some research, I found that it wouldn’t matter if I were to go to any kind of authorities, as there are no HIV Criminalization Laws in Zambia (in other words: you are not required by law to disclose your status to sexual partners). I finally realized that I needed to remove myself from the situation. I needed to let him go. I needed to move on.
From that time, I didn’t talk with him for more than a month. Then one day, after I felt cooled down from it all, I casually commented on something on his Facebook status. He responded cheerfully and asked how I was doing. When I went to write back, it wouldn’t let me. He had blocked me. I’ve never found out why. And we’ve never talked since…